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Keep Dancing

My wife wanted just one thing for her birthday.  She quietly, but consistently eroded my defenses until I gave in to her persistent pleas – for a dance lesson.  So I reluctantly agreed to have my daughter Tricia, and her then-fiancé, Lawrence, set up the fear-provoking event one warm, Chicago afternoon.   The instructor greeted […]

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The 20% Club

I was a counselor for 25 years within the role of Associate Pastor for 35 years. My forté was marriage counseling. I have seen a lot.  Some marriages flourish – I consider those marriages to be a part of what I like to describe as the “20% Club.” Included are couples who work hard, serve […]

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The 30-day Challenge

If you know me, you know that I value truth. I have been referred to as forthright. A bottom-line sort of guy. Justice is my passion. Maybe you can relate.  Many of us were raised to treasure truth, to place a high value on truth-telling; some of us were discipled to think this way. I […]

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Forgiving the Unforgivable

Auschwitz. The very word causes even moderately-informed humans to pause and prayerfully reflect. It was one of the most infamous concentration camps of all time. Located in Poland, it represents all that love is not. Fear, hate, isolation, hopelessness.  I had the honor of visiting this sacred site a couple of years ago. It was […]

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Be Ye Kind.

My wife and I had the life-changing opportunity to hike the Camino de Santiago in Spain last fall. The Camino is really a metaphor for life’s journey. Along the way people scribble various thoughts, quotes and sayings. One favorite was “Imagine a world without countries.” Wouldn’t that have amazing implications!? Meditate on that one. That […]

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What I Learned from Leroy

I can be pretty self-righteous. I hate that. I don’t think God is really keen on spiritual arrogance, either. In fact, I think He loathes it because it is baggage that keeps us from soaring spiritually.  Last year I realized I needed to cut this dead weight. I needed to do something tangible. My judgmentalism […]